As the peak of the holiday season approaches, it commemorates a time full of family feasts and events. Many of these events can be polarized by an aggressive family member’s political views or unwarranted body shaming.
These unwanted comments are passed around the Christmas table as much as the table salt, which may create uncomfortable environments. Although, there are many ways to maintain peace.
“It’s better to focus on behaviors that can reduce anxiety and boost your mood,” psychologist Thomas C. Lian said, during an interview with Scripps Health.
Methods such as listening to music and doing yoga before a family event will create a calm environment to prepare for the stressful conversations some may will experience later.
“I always try to maintain a clean environment beforehand and not let things get too hectic with children since everything is hosted at my house,” senior Melanie Ambriz said.
Even so, these stressful situations are fully preventable.
“Stay away from topics that can cause arguments. If someone does bring it up, try to change the subject in a polite way,” Dr. Stephen Shapero said during an interview with Scripps Health.
Therefore, it is very important to only worry about what is in one’s control. It may be difficult to avoid conversation with certain family members or toxic behaviors but focusing on what matters will ensure the holidays go smoothly.
“I usually can’t prevent conflict from occurring in my house, but I try my best to minimize it by supervising the kids and watching the adults since fights tend to break out.” Ambriz said.
This is a time to spend time with family and be grateful, not get into petty arguments. Mindfulness, tolerance and gratitude are important factors to keep in mind during this tense time.
“We all do things that irritate other people, and we probably aren’t aware of it,” dr. Lian said. “Try to be tolerant of others’ quirks and irritating behaviors, and don’t take them personally.”
Regardless of how one chooses to spend their time during this season, it is imperative to protect the peace of the holiday environment. Avoid arguments, handle conflict accordingly and enjoy the holiday season.
